Realistic decor

>> Monday, January 31, 2011

So I always get super-excited when looking at interior design stuff, from books & magazines, to images that are more inspirational than instructive.  I even bought a "Better Homes &  Gardens" New Cottage Style book on clearance this weekend (it's so not me to buy the conventional brands...though writing that, I realized I sound super stuck-up.  Sorry.)!

I often get stuck in two places:  The first is that I get turned on by entirely different and clashing decor styles.  A recent post had a picture from Seattle University's Chapel of St. Ignatius, which is a contempory take on religious iconography in decor.  Then, I recently sent Brant a link to a DIY Zen decor web article which features dark woods, Asian-inspired pieces, lots of earthy candles, and earth tones.

At first, it doesn't really seem like a 'problem' but what is so wonderful about both these looks is the total commitment to the ideal or theme.  I'm sure I could marry the two, and it might look beautiful--really really stunning, but the piece I love about it would be lessened significantly.

The second challenge I come to is that I choose ideas that aren't realistic for me at this point in my life.  One issue is money, obviously.  I think we all have this issue, honestly.  So I can skip talking about it in detail.  The next issue is sustainability and reuse.  I don't want to throw out/donate the majority of what I already have in order to acquire new pieces.  I also don't want to set out to alter every piece I have either; with a 5 month old, it's just not realistic, not to mention unsafe, considering the toxins present in many of the materials I'd use to create certain effects.

So...imagine my joy (yes, joy!) when finding, on the same Etsy trend page as the DIY Zen article, an assemblage of pieces and images to inspire a DIY English Country home!  I'm attracted to this natively (see above, my book purchase) and have much of the mishmash of pieces that fit into this theme.

We have a tin watering can we bought vintage that could do this...
and we have a woodstove featured in our living room :)

What I love about this is that many different styles can be added here to form a cohesive whole; we just need some bit of a through-line to pull it together.  I know it's more 'cluttered' than the zen home, but--let's face it--I'm cluttered.  Especially with Owen; could you imagine trying to keep every piece of the zen home together while he's learning how to crawl, walk, spitting up, etc.?

Some pieces we already have:

Vintage chair w/floral print

Rustic side table from the Red Door

'Antiqued' bookshelves

We also have wicker baskets, a floral print couch, an 'antiqued' white dresser (perfect for the living room, ha!), and tons of little knick knacks...

So we can be on our way!


Sex & TV

>> Thursday, January 27, 2011

So, with much trepidation (and the insistence of my BFF), I began to watch the HBO series True Blood.  For those of you who aren't familiar with the series, it's [another] vampire series but with the interesting twist of being set in Louisiana.  Southern accents, southern morals, southern vampires.  It's also loosely based off the books by Charlaine Harris, though it's really beside the point of many of the TV show's viewers and followers.
The first episode showed so much sex, it was pornographic.  Actually, I'd say I'd rather watch porn than this.  Because at least with porn, I'd be making the choice to watch.  This was totally unexpected.

What bothered me most about it was the way they portrayed sex--it was the epitome of misogyny.  The women really were objects here; objects in that they had no inherent value in themselves, but as a sexual object for the male.  It was also rough.  I mean, ROUGH, which made me sick to my stomach.  There was no intimacy, no...slowness, no sensuality.  Just grotesque bondage and hyper-speed.  Each sex scene must have been written by a man ( man who has a pretty huge misconception about what sex really should be because each scene (with different people) was equally rough).

Vamp Grossness, the PG version

What bothered me the most about it was the perpetuation of misconception here.  Now, I'm more than aware that people's sexual preferences can be varied.  I'm under no illusion that all women (or person in the stereotypical submissive role) like only tender, loving, slow intimacy.  However.

The idea these sex scenes (and they're like, everywhere in that show) perpetuate is that women like to be treated a particular (demeaning) way.  It shows overtly what is covertly put forth everywhere in society.  The sick part (at least, to me) is that women participate just as much as men.  We pretend that this hard, fast stuff is okay to watch, that it's okay that it's on TV, that it's turning us on, which of course makes men think we like it.  And then we turn it in on ourselves and think we like it.  And sometimes we might...and that's okay...but FOR THE LOVE OF GOD why do we have to let them put a blown-up, overdone version of it on TV????

p.s.~I was going to find a clip of one of the sex scenes and post it on here, but I didn't want to shock anyone.  Go look it up yourselves.  It really is shocking to me, and I've seen my fair share of porn.


While we have the Sun

>> Wednesday, January 19, 2011

I really listened to this song for the first time last night, and I had a very intense  moment.  It actually broke some dam that was around my heart, and let me experience my sadness.  Here's the part where I lost it:

"If you want to shake whatever separates you from the holiness you want to make your life on earth become, live your life with a compassion you can be proud of. Then let your last breath fade away with dignity and love.

Here are the full lyrics:

"Let's take the time to walk together while we have the sun
You never know when temperamental weather's gonna come
And if you want to face the death you're never that far from
Just take a breath and sing to it when all the day is done

So sorry about all the sorrow in your life you'll know
It's true that all the ones you love will someday have to go
And everytime you say goodbye you'll hear the trumpets blow
A serenade to the soul, all surrounded by the glow

If you feel all broken 'cause i left you there too soon
Just know that it's not up to you to make the flowers wilt or bloom
And if you think you're lonely then just listen for the tune
Of all the stars i left for you in the chest of the moon

If you want to shake whatever separates you from
The holiness you want to make your life on earth become
Live your life with a compassion you can be proud of
Then let your last breath fade away with dignity and love

Let's take the time to walk together while we have the sun
You never know when temperamental weather's gonna come
And if you want to face the death you're never that far from
Just take a breath and sing to it when all the day is done"


2011 New Years Resolutions

>> Thursday, January 6, 2011

This year i decided to have as specific, realistic NY resolutions as possible.  Here they are:

1. Drink 64oz water a day

2. See my sister, mom 1x a month

3. Have patience with my circumstances...keep my mouth shut about complaining when not necessary
4. Practice living in the Kingdom of Heaven daily

5. Yoga 1x a week
Meditate or Pray every other day

6. Read a book on my lunch breaks at work

7. Go to Unity 2x a month

They're not HUGE goals, but hopefully I'll be able to achieve them because they're manageable.  And important.  What are your resolutions?


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